DON’T COMPARE YOUR SPOUSE WITH ANOTHER: PASTOR WARNS.June 26, 2022
I CAN’T FOLLOW (MY WIFE) FOR SHOPPING, THAT IS NOT MY REALM. I WILL DO MANY OTHER THINGS, BUT I WILL NOT GO SHOPPING WITH YOU.😂😂😂
SOME HUSBANDS ARE SHOWING THEIR LOVE IN EVERY WAY THEY CAN. THEIR LOVE IS INTACT BUT THEY DO NOT KNOW HOW TO SAY SOME THINGS YET YOU INSIST THAT IT IS THOSE THINGS YOU WANT TO HEAR…IT WILL BE VERY DIFFICULT
UNDERSTAND THE PERSON YOU ARE MARRIED TO AND THEN, UNDERSTAND THEIR EXPRESSIONS AND ACCEPT THEIR EXPRESSIONS WITHOUT NECESSARILY COMPARING THEM WITH SOMEBODY ELSE. THERE ARE DIFFERENT EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE.
STOP COMPARING YOUR WIFE OR YOUR HUSBAND WITH OTHER PEOPLE.
DON’T USE ANOTHER PERSON’S BEHAVIOUR AS A BASIS TO LOOK DOWN OR RATE YOUR SPOUSE.
Don’t compare your spouse with another. Stop comparing your wife or your husband with other people (2 Corinthians 10:12).
Stop comparing your spouse with another, do you know why? People are different, it is not possible for any two people to be exactly the same, even brothers of the same mother, sister of the same mother and father are different. Even identical twins, they have a different thumbprint. Don’t use another person’s behaviour as a basis to look down or rate your spouse. Once you have agreed to marry a person, accept their individuality. You can learn from people, learn from the relationship of people, learn from how this man, and I think if there’s anybody to compare with, maybe as a woman, you compare yourself with the other woman’s behaviour, so you can behave better, if that is the comparison you want and as a man, how good the man is taking care of his wife, you learn from that man and take care of your wife like that. But where you have a woman telling you, this is what my husband does for me and then, you go and put your husband under pressure, that this is what my friend’s husband is doing for her and vice versa, then you are set for destruction in that relationship and I believe, the Lord will help us in Jesus’ name.
One woman said to the husband to be telling her some things and those kind of things and the man said, “I am not used to that kind of thing. I can do everything but, the thing you are asking me to say and those kind of things, I am not used to it. I can’t talk like that.” The truth is, no matter how hard you try, there are things you can’t force some people to do. Church Gist. Their love is intact, they are genuine in the fact that, they love their wives, but you want them to communicate that love in certain ways, they will not be able. My wife used to teach on love languages and she said the language of love for people are different. There are people who express love in acts of service, there are people who express love in quality times spent. There are people who express love in the words of communication, there are those who express their love in the giving of gifts and so on. So, there are different expressions of love.
Now, the man is serving you and the man is giving you all the things he wants to give you and you are expecting him to express it in some other ways that he is not used to, it will be very difficult. Church Gist. So, let’s just understand the person you are married to and then, understand their expressions and accept their expressions without necessarily comparing the man with somebody else.
There are men who will go on shopping with their wives and their wives are so excited that the man went on shopping and they went everywhere; will you buy this? No!
Will you buy that? Yes!
And then, they are moving, but if you put me in that condition, you are on your own. I can’t follow you for shopping. Church Gist.That is not my realm. I will do many things, but go for shopping with you? I will be looking at time. So, there are different expressions and just ensure that you don’t compare yourself with somebody and the Lord bless you in Jesus’ name.
Stand up on your feet and lift up your voice and say, Father, thank You for Your Word to me today. I receive the grace to have a relationship that is great for myself, my loved ones, my children and my family. Thank you Master, in Jesus precious name.
-Pastor Paul Enenche on ‘MARITAL AND RELATIONSHIP WISDOM’ (Part 3)
First Service, Dunamis International Gospel Centre.
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